My daughter is dating
I thought about forbidding him from dating, but knew it was probably a little late for that.Besides, “forbidding” a child from doing anything often doesn’t result in compliance; more often results in secretive, rebellious behavior.But now my daughter is telling lies and sneaking around just to see him. I understand the route you chose—to forbid your daughter to see this boy.Given his past involvement with vandalizing your home and drug involvement, you are worried. My daughter says he has changed and she really likes him.
How much time depended upon whether or not other expectations were being met, such as not being behind with household responsibilities or work in school.Where you are now—forbidding something that you can’t actually prevent—is a losing game for you and your daughter.Put the focus where it belongs: on the actual risks she may be facing in dating this boy, not on the risk of you catching her.As parents, we recognize the fleeting quality of an adolescent relationship and know that as much as our child tries to convince us he/she is “in love,” chances are the relationship isn’t going to last more than a few months at most.Finding a balance between supervising activities, while still allowing for a sort of emotional exploration, is a good approach to dealing with adolescent dating. I guess that depends upon your perspective and your personal belief system.