Dating too soon after divorce with children
How do we help kids through these transitions and avoid instability? Kristen Hadfield, a post-doctoral fellow I supervise at the Resilience Research Centre, who has been doing research in the U.
S., Ireland and Canada on mothers, stepparents and kids. First, parents are cycling in and out of romantic relationships at a higher rate than ever before.
While most parents tend to cut off ties with their former lovers, it’s seldom that simple for the kids.
For example, Hadfield found that custodial parents wanted their new partners to take on a parenting role with their children, as well as being the parent's romantic partner.
As I mentioned earlier, custodial parents often want the stepparent to be a real parent with responsibilities for the kids.
Most of the evidence suggests doing otherwise, especially if the child is over the age of 6.
Fifty percent of these kids are also likely to experience three or more changes in who’s parenting them before the age of 5, and a third will experience another change between the ages of 6 and 12.
Whether we want to admit it or not, children are going to experience instability as their parents go in search of romantic partners.