Dating calling vs texting
While it's debatable whether grammar and spelling matters in texts overall, you're better off using proper English in your initial texts with someone you'd like to date.
Ansari and Dr Klinenberg said that bad grammar and spelling was considered a turn off in every interview they did with focus group participants.
It might be fine with your friends, but it will make a bad impression on someone you're romantically interested in.
Chatspeak can also be easily misunderstood if the receiver doesn't know the abbreviations you use.
A text like "looking forward to seeing you tomorrow" isn't a bad idea.
It helps confirm that your date is still on and it shows your interest in a way that doesn't come across as being overeager or pushy.
Since our whole world is so instant now, people can craft entire personas through their slew of texts. We asked Vanessa Marin, licensed marriage and family therapist and Lifehacker contributor, how to avoid the "secretary problem", and she said it's all about being specific: Make specific plans. The fewer direct questions you send their way, the fewer responses you have to stress about.
All in all, stick to correctly-spelled words and clear language — at least at first.
Don't text the girl from work "fyi i frgt have an appt l8r idk if i can meet 2day." Say something clear like "I forgot I have an appointment this afternoon.
It's easy to make a vague commitment via text, like, "let's talk Friday about doing something this weekend." If you're genuinely interested in the person, suggest a specific day and time for your date. " Instead, say "Hey, I'd love to take you out for dinner Wednesday night." If you can make a callback reference to a previous interaction — like a restaurant or type of food you both talked about — it's even better. Also, just because the guy you're being set up with doesn't answer right away doesn't mean he'll never answer you.
Say something like "Hey, how about dinner at that restaurant we talked about on Wednesday night? " As Chelsea Clishem at Patti Knows advises, texting should be the prelude to a conversation, the conversation itself. Not only will you use up all your conversation starters before you actually meet that "guy your friend set you up with", you'll probably create unnecessary stress for yourself. Nerdlove recommends you always give them plenty of time to respond and always avoid being pushy: Unless the two of you are already having a conversation - having moved from online dating to texting, for example or from when you met - text sparingly.