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Your husband actually knows what to do and doesn’t freak out even though you’re probably freaking out, so I’d say that’s one benefit. I have had on a serious note, you know, I have dealt with a little bit of depression.He also says that he likes to suture, like if we have a hole in a shirt or something, he likes to suture the shirt back together, which the quality is questionable to be honest with you. So one thing about the surgeon world and being married to surgeons is it is pretty easy I think for us to feel sorry for ourselves. I’ve had really lows when I just felt like the demand of his job was sucking him away from the relationship and from the family. On the other hand, I think if we’re not careful, we can kind of get into a pity party that’s not going to serve us well.I studied journalism in college so I can’t really help myself there. New York, Orange County, whatever, you know, it’s just not true. Not everybody does, but I think a good example of this is that my husband does not actually like to tell people that he is a physician because he’s noticed that people immediately start treating him differently and it can become awkward or they can think, oh well let’s see how much money we can get out of this guy. That physician tax, you know, that’s what we would think of it as this.So it’s kind of a weird thing, but we just want to pay the same price for a car as anybody else does. It’s especially true unfortunately, and it’s certainly not in all cases.
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Lara has a conversation about the good and bad of being married to a surgeon with Megan Sharma, author of the upcoming book, “Memoir’s of a Surgeon’s Wife: I’m Throwing Your Damn Pager Into the Ocean.” Megan Sharma is an author and writing professional originally from Seattle, Washington and recently transplanted to the Midwest.
In 2015, the same year she moved cross-country (again!
So I, I think you’re totally right and we have to keep our attitudes in check as well and uh, keep our expectations realistic also. And that’s one thing I noticed just among doctor wives in general, there’s often a lot of, well it’ll get better, it’ll get better. I’m not saying it’s quite like residency, but you know, if you’re a general surgeon, I mean I can’t speak for everyone. So my husband owned our condo in Seattle and so we put it on the market before the end of residency and it sold within two weeks. So we were living with my parents, um, you know, commuting an hour each way to Seattle, you know, he’d be getting up at his usual am sometimes earlier and one morning he had been on call and I think he had a late surgery the previous night, so he had got home at like midnight, got up at four.
And what I find for a lot of surgeons spouses they are like, well, it didn’t really ever get that much better. My husband’s a general surgeon, you know, they still, they take call, they have a lot of hours that are divided up in weird ways. But with a surgical specialty, they have more responsibility as an attending because those are their patients. Obviously I don’t get up at four, I’m not a morning person and I think that’s still the middle of the night. I wasn’t awake and he got his shoes and put the shoes on.