Dating a man six years older
When you date someone from a generation that doesn’t remember dial-up, they just fix all of that Internet stuff for you. She also keeps me in the know about who the new cool rapper or cool model is, which I no longer have the energy to figure out by myself.”But then sometimes an age gap can make you feel like you’re from different planets.“Sometimes I definitely feel old, like when my girlfriend says, ‘Who’s Fiona Apple?He also practiced Buddhist chanting (à la Courtney Love).I filed both of these under “things you can only appreciate while middle-aged.” But despite the age difference (and his idiosyncrasies) we had some things in common.Before the Older Man, I’d never been in a relationship with someone of a significantly different age—older or younger—but I had spent my adolescence fantasizing about my teachers bending me over my lab station, so in a way this felt long overdue.The Older Man was also my editor, which added a power imbalance to the mix—a dynamic we all know can be equal parts problematic and irresistible.
I wonder: What do we gain and lose from dating someone of a different generation? For one, he wore silk onesie pajamas that he meticulously ironed to have a crease down the center of the pant leg.
I quickly learned that constantly feeling like a dependent child can be a real boner-killer. I wanted to take ketamine and lie on the floor in public. He also avoided hanging out with my friends—my theory was that he hated feeling like the old man at the party, while he argued that “going to Brooklyn is embarrassing.” And then there was the issue of energy levels: He would come once, and then pronounce his dick out of commission until tomorrow. Realistically, the proverbial conflict of horse tranquilizers versus fresh produce can happen in any relationship, regardless of age.
But generational differences are an easy scapegoat, especially when you’re not in the mood for introspection.
While slightly less than half of people said there was no ideal age gap (good call, sensible people), 33% of women wanted a guy up to seven years older than them, while only one out of a hundred women preferred a younger man.
Not that I have anything against dating older guys, but here's some afternoon uggghhh: Financial stability was one of the biggest reasons women cited for preferring older dudes, since 55% of women said they couldn't afford rent or mortgages on their Despite the unfortunate rise of the cougar phenomenon (not that dating younger men is unfortunate, just the use of the term cougar), it seems as a society, we're still more into May-December relations when the guy is the December. I'm not sure I actually know what that expression is supposed to mean. But what I'm trying to say is, more people still think that a romantic relationship is ideal when it's between an older man and a younger woman.