Avoid dating married men
He assured me that his wife was cool with it and that they had a 'don’t ask don’t tell' relationship.I suggested we tell her multiple times, but he wouldn’t have the courage.From enjoying no-strings-attached sex to simply falling for a friend and coworker, three women shared with why they slept with married men, and what it taught them about themselves."I’m a former marketing communications manager turned performer and entertainer. Married' about a year and a half ago when my friend asked me to play keyboard in his new band, and the man was the bassist.He almost backhanded me in the face once during a disagreement, but I blocked him, and then he started crying.He drank entirely too much and when that happened, all he did was pick a fight.I was drawn to him because he was super funny, cool, stylish, sweet, generous, kind, caring, creative, and artistic, not to mention quirky and adventurous.
When he eventually told her, it turned out she wasn’t OK with it. He has told me not to message or contact him again, and I haven’t seen him since. I still carry a lot of guilt about it all, although I’m currently in a committed monogamous relationship with a man who is not married and am super happy.
Ultimately I broke up with him and then came back because of his crying and apologizing, only for him to pick an argument with me a week later and say that we were no longer together.
I realized that his ego was bruised when I told him I didn't want to be with him, so he made up with me just to break up, so he could have the last word.
“She’s thinking that being with this guy is ideal because he’s not going to want more from her because he’s already is married.” For other women, while they may feel uncomfortable about the man’s marriage, their own intimacy issues draw them to someone unavailable.
“You may have an individual who wants deeper intimacy, but for whatever attachment reasons, they may be afraid,” explains Aaron.