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The value of date nights is backed by research, says Ms Judith Alagirisamy, a family life specialist at Focus on the Family Singapore.She cites a study in recent years by the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia in the United States.One step wrong and you can get upset with each other.We talk about it," says Ms Ng, adding that her husband once kicked her by accident and broke her toenail.They have four daughters, aged between 19 and 27, and a three-month-old grandson.Learning different dance steps for the man and the woman means having to be clued in to each other's non-verbal nuances and knowing when to move together or apart. "When couples learn to dance, you step on each other's feet.You have to keep the relationship fresh." Married for 40 years, the couple, who met at university, have two adult daughters and a three-year-old grandson. "We need to have some time for ourselves, otherwise, if I am burnt out, how can I manage a family?Even when work was at its most hectic, during the 1980s and 1990s, when Mr Kua worked at the Singapore Chinese Chamber of Commerce in Hill Street, he still met his wife, who was working at Boat Quay then, for lunch, somewhere midway between their offices. " He says they do not often have stereotypically "romantic" date nights out. Madam Ng says she feels fortunate to have such a kind spouse.
Ms Alagirisamy says: "The key to remaining close as a couple is to consistently make time for each other and show their spouse that he or she matters.
"Because we are conservative Chinese, we don't express our affections too openly. They usually have lunch together at places such as Lau Pa Sat hawker centre or at Japanese eateries near Cecil Street.
They sometimes share an ice kacang dessert, each offering the other the few pieces of delicious attap chee.
"We did not have a weekly date for close to 15 years," says Ms Ng.
She recalls feeling guilty about being out on a date when her eldest was one year old.